Do you want to change your life for the better? Everyone knows that this can be quite hard. Sometimes you feel stuck, unmotivated or as if your efforts take you nowhere. Let me show you one exercise that might change your life forever.
If you want to change your life, you first have to look at the one you are already living right now.
DAILY STRUCTURE OF THE PAST AND FUTURE
“I would love to do this or that but I don’t have the time.”
Whether you like it or not, your day has some kind of structure – positive or negative. This structure is built by your habits. First you have to become aware of how you spend your time before you can make any lasting changes.
Write down how an average day in the past week of your life looked like.
-When did you wake up? When did you go to sleep?
-What did you do in the mornings? How did you spend your evenings?
-How much time did you spend on social media?
-What activites did you do and how long did they take you?
Be honest with yourself. Really think of all the things you have done in the past 7 days and structure how one of those days realistically looked like. Here’s an example:
Example: Michaels daily structure of the past
7-8am get ready, breakfast, commute
1-2pm lunch, 20 mins on social media
5-6pm shopping, commute, listening to music
6-7pm dinner, clean kitchen
7-8pm shower, 35 mins on social media
8-11pm watched movie
ARE YOU SURPRISED?
So, now we have established how you spend your time on an average day. Are you surprised? This exercise hopefully opened your eyes to how you currently live your life. That’s not what you are here for tho. Let’s look at how this exercise helps us build the life we really want to live.
HOW DOES YOUR PERFECT DAY LOOK LIKE?
First we create an ideal version of your day.
What are your goals? Look at them and determine what you can do on a daily basis to reach them. If your goal is to lose 10kg in a few months, be determined to exercise for at least 20 mins every day. If you want to start a business, set aside 1h every day to work towards it. If you want to have better relationships, plan 30 mins every day to call a loved one.
DAILY STRUCTURE OF THE FUTURE
Now, create a daily structure that would be ideal for you and your goals. Don’t forget to take some time to rest or plan things that will recharge your energy.
Example: Michaels daily structure of the future
5-6am workout, shower
6-7am breakfast, meditate
7-8am get ready, commute
1-2pm lunch, 10min streching
5-5:30pm commute, listen to podcast
6:30-7pm call one family member
7-8pm work on project Y
8-9pm read and rest
REFLECT ON YOUR LIFE
Taking action is brilliant. You still need a direction, a plan and constant reflection to succeed. Do this exercise every week or every month to adjust your course and get on the right track again.
Don’t forget to be realistic. Start small. If you are too hard on yourself, you will feel guilt for not being able to follow this new routine or might give it up alltogether. For the first week, tackle only one segment of your day.
Michael might start by fixing his sleep schedule. For the first seven days he works on going to bed and waking up one hour earlier. Even though that isn’t his ideal, he will still be closer to it than he was in the beginning.
BUILD HABITS INSTEAD OF INSTANT CHANGE
The next week he creates a new structure of the past (from the last week) that aligns more and more with the structure of the future. This week he might focus on listening to a podcast on the way home from work.
Slowly all the segments get replaced with how Michael really wants to live his life.
Don’t rush. After all, you want to see long-term results. These take time.
You can do it. I believe in you.