„You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with“
For your own sanity, you have to distance yourself from people that have a negative impact on you. That’s pretty obvious.
It can still be very hard to recognize those toxic people in the first place. It’s even harder when those people are your own family. I have learned to avoid certain family members and only visit them when nesseccary. This means, I am prepared for the negativity they throw at me.
Unfortunately there is a toxic person in my own home too. The place that should be my safe haven, my peaceful place to relax and replenish. So, now what?
1. Escape the environment
One obvious tip is to move out and change your scenery as the toxic people you deal with will most likely not change. Unfortunately that’s not always possible due to many different reasons. So the next tips are about coping with a toxic person in your home.
2. Don’t engage with them
Even if they make you angry, annoy you on purpose or try to unload their negative emotions on you: don’t let them. They feed off of your reaction. Simply don’t react and walk away. It is important to watch your own inner world in these moments and just stare at them with a blank expression. This often makes them realize how stupid they are behaving.
3. Get help
Especially if they are physically assulting you or threaten to hurt you, get someone to help you. Open up to people you trust, like other family members, people at your school or work place, the police, call certain helplines or tell your friends.
4. Avoid them at all costs
Whenever you don’t feel your strongest, avoid them. Interactions with toxic people are draining and take away a lot of your energy and joy. I usually stay in my room most of the time when they’re home or try to eat at different times as they do.
5. All this is temporary
I know it can be hard and frustrating but just know that nothing is forever. Soon you will live in peace again.
Never forget that you are not alone. There are many people in the same situation as you are. You will get through this. Stay strong because I believe in you.